Links

• Explore the community: http://khayrab.com/community

• The Mental Meanderings of Waseem.Space podcast - Home of the 3rd Cultured: https://waseem.space/podcasts/

• The Diggin'It Podcast (Arabic): https://waseem.space/the-diggnit-podcast/

Discussion

• Shoulds and how it gets us to suppress our feelings/needs

• Examples and our experiences with acting out and lashing out

• The right way to learn about your values, who you are, and what you should present about yourself (spoiler: there is only a right way)

Exploration

How do you lash out or act out?

What's the pattern you see?

What does it tell you about your values and what's important to you?

There’s a HUGE difference between ruminating about what people MIGHT be thinking and empathy.

Explore the community at khayrab.com/community

Teaching

• How last episode’s persona gets you in the right mindset to network and connect without anxiety

• Why Ramadan is a great time to experiment with your personal brand

• The art of getting out of your own head (we had an AMAZING discussion about this in the community, where members shared how quick their experience from awkwardness to confidence was. I was bummed that I couldn’t post it)

This Week’s Exploration

1. If you haven’t already, get and fill in the persona template at khayrab.com/blog/empathy-marketing

2. Write down your answers to these 3 questions:
   How might you frustrate or be a frustration to them?
   How are you meant to serve them to attain THEIR goals?
   How could you provide more healthy motivation for them to attain THEIR goals?

Being "helpable" (i.e. vulnerable) is a mindset for connection and collaboration… That’s why your personal branding efforts have felt empty and has fallen flat.

A summary of what was covered and prep for what's coming up.

This Week’s Exploration

1. List out all the people that you hope to impact or influence through your work

2. Categorize them if you haven’t already. Examples: Manager, potential employers, clients, potential clients, end users, colleagues, university admissions

3. Pick ONE that you’d like to fully explore next week

Music by ItsWatR from Pixabay

Teachings

• Why it's hard to describe Visibility Ease as a helpful person

• People-pleasing

• Ambition-Pleasing

This Week's Assignment

• Take note of what downside of helpfulness comes up for you this week

• Consider how being helpful sometimes traps you in secrecy, selfishness, and disconnection with reality

Recommended Resources

• Course Class: From Persecutor to Challenger (aka Ambition-Pleasing)

• Course Class: From Rescuer to Coach (aka People-Pleasing)

• Course Class: Why is it hard to ask for help when it would make your life easier?

• Article: Why you don't like help when it would make your life so much easier and 4 steps to change it

• Note: Courses are only available to community members and program members