Links

• Explore the community: http://khayrab.com/community

• The Mental Meanderings of Waseem.Space podcast - Home of the 3rd Cultured: https://waseem.space/podcasts/

• The Diggin'It Podcast (Arabic): https://waseem.space/the-diggnit-podcast/

Discussion

• Shoulds and how it gets us to suppress our feelings/needs

• Examples and our experiences with acting out and lashing out

• The right way to learn about your values, who you are, and what you should present about yourself (spoiler: there is only a right way)

Exploration

How do you lash out or act out?

What's the pattern you see?

What does it tell you about your values and what's important to you?

Links

• Explore the Community: http://khayrab.com/community

• Sarah Alamoudi Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sarahhealthpsy/

• The full video conversation: https://www.khayrab.com/blog/i-am-off-social-media-3

Discussion

• The inherited caveman mindset

• The chessboard metaphor of "what if"

• Thoughts are thoughts, not positive or negative

• The quickest way to find out who we are

Exploration

• Notice when your mind creates noise. What happens around you? What happens within you?

• Bonus: Can you let it play in the background?

Teachings

• Why it's hard to describe Visibility Ease as a helpful person

• People-pleasing

• Ambition-Pleasing

This Week's Assignment

• Take note of what downside of helpfulness comes up for you this week

• Consider how being helpful sometimes traps you in secrecy, selfishness, and disconnection with reality

Recommended Resources

• Course Class: From Persecutor to Challenger (aka Ambition-Pleasing)

• Course Class: From Rescuer to Coach (aka People-Pleasing)

• Course Class: Why is it hard to ask for help when it would make your life easier?

• Article: Why you don't like help when it would make your life so much easier and 4 steps to change it

• Note: Courses are only available to community members and program members