The tools of power, authority, and control that we’ve been provided from our modern society only gives us the illusion of being our true selves. This causes pain in us that comes out as procrastination, imposter syndrome, and comparison. Finding the 100% line helps us set up the boundaries and self-compassion to get back to our authentic selves. Here’s 5 steps on how.
Read MoreHere are three ways to see if your ego is hijacking your chance of true innovation through collaborative relationships.
“I will hurt for you”
You may decline help because you’re the strong one – it’s your identity. Asking someone else to struggle the way you do seems selfish at best. You may decline help because the feeling of someone thanking you is too good to give to someone else. It’s a popular myth that you can only get true recognition by struggling through weakness instead of serving from strengths.
“I can’t”
You may decline help because the effort of being the solution-person is too big a responsibility. The goal is too big and unwieldy for you to even start thinking about, so how in the world could you put into words what you’d need from others? This can also be tied to perfectionism where no one else can get to the standard that you know it should be. Obviously, you can’t trust anyone else with this.
“I told you so”
Once you give it a go and try to ask for help, you are disappointed and nothing got done. This always happens when someone else tries to get involved, it just isn’t right. Resentment, blame, and isolation bubbles up in you, keeping you in your comfort zone of lonely struggle.
Read MoreThings I didn’t mention by numbers in the podcast (I wasn’t ready).
I started giving personal branding consultations in Sep 2018. It left me empty because I was charging 200sr/hr AND there was no way for me implement sustainable habits in my clients.
Now I’ve gone into my own business full time (since January 2020), not for the entrepreneur trend, but because I recognize my highly sensitive nature needs at the beginning & end of the day. I need time to reflect and enter the day, and time to wind down my nerves and reflect at night. I’m at 100% capacity in my practice, my lowest sales month was 2,300sr (after prepping to live in savings for 8 months!) and my highest was 22,500sr.
Read MoreThe easiest way to find out if this article will apply to you is to go into the moment of your self-edit. When you’re about to post on social media and you decide to backspace and reword, what makes you do that? Go back to the last time you edited yourself before publishing. Connect with that moment of doubt. Now… Which of the following three thoughts were at the front of your mind?
Read MoreImposter Syndrome is the feeling of not being expert enough, good enough, intuitive enough, smart enough, able enough to do/say what people expect of you even though there is daily evidence that you already are doing and saying just that.
Here I break down your relationship with feeling like a fake and what you can do about it.
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