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Why you don't like help when it would make your life so much easier and 4 steps to change it

Here are three ways to see if your ego is hijacking your chance of true innovation through collaborative relationships.

“I will hurt for you”

You may decline help because you’re the strong one – it’s your identity. Asking someone else to struggle the way you do seems selfish at best. You may decline help because the feeling of someone thanking you is too good to give to someone else. It’s a popular myth that you can only get true recognition by struggling through weakness instead of serving from strengths.

“I can’t”

You may decline help because the effort of being the solution-person is too big a responsibility. The goal is too big and unwieldy for you to even start thinking about, so how in the world could you put into words what you’d need from others? This can also be tied to perfectionism where no one else can get to the standard that you know it should be. Obviously, you can’t trust anyone else with this.

“I told you so”

Once you give it a go and try to ask for help, you are disappointed and nothing got done. This always happens when someone else tries to get involved, it just isn’t right. Resentment, blame, and isolation bubbles up in you, keeping you in your comfort zone of lonely struggle.

Appearance: HSE Feature with Personal Branding Coach, Khayra Bundakji - Business Miracles

Things I didn’t mention by numbers in the podcast (I wasn’t ready).

I started giving personal branding consultations in Sep 2018. It left me empty because I was charging 200sr/hr AND there was no way for me implement sustainable habits in my clients.

Now I’ve gone into my own business full time (since January 2020), not for the entrepreneur trend, but because I recognize my highly sensitive nature needs at the beginning & end of the day. I need time to reflect and enter the day, and time to wind down my nerves and reflect at night. I’m at 100% capacity in my practice, my lowest sales month was 2,300sr (after prepping to live in savings for 8 months!) and my highest was 22,500sr.

How to not compare yourself to... Yourself?

It’s our perception of of our life that scares us, hurts us, angers us, and frustrates us. There are very big very valid exceptions in relationships and traumatic events, but this article focuses on our perception of the world when no one else is around.

Let’s explore the different your different versions that you’re comparing yourself to and how to make peace with it 💫

How to deal with Imposter Syndrome while promoting yourself

Imposter Syndrome is the feeling of not being expert enough, good enough, intuitive enough, smart enough, able enough to do/say what people expect of you even though there is daily evidence that you already are doing and saying just that.

Here I break down your relationship with feeling like a fake and what you can do about it.

COVID-19 and Your Productivity

I was diagnosed with Attention Deficit Hyper-Active Disorder (ADHD), Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Depression, and Bipolar II, and yet I have been able to complete an MBA, co-found a podcasting network, and build up khayrab.com from a place of excitement and alignment.

Let me walk you through techniques and beliefs that can support you during this uncertain time.

Bookings are open again!

It’s here! A number of you kindly subscribed to my updates when I stopped taking clients; thank you for your patience. I am really excited to update you on my new offerings at khayrab.com!

As you may know, I’ve been seeing clients since I first moved to Jeddah in 2007, helping them set up blogs and connecting them with the right communication outlets. Well, I have officially made the jump to dedicate all my time to my clients & my business. My clients gain insight in speaking about themselves in a calm, aligned, and enjoyable way 🧘

The services I offer….

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